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    For the next two years (starting on Feb 14, 2011) I will use this blog to chronicle our travels while on assignment in Suzhou, China. My wife and I (OK, mostly me) consider this a great opportunity to get to know one of the oldest and richest cultures in the world. We are excited about the opportunity and hope you will join us as we explore this amazing land and it's surroundings. We encourage you to add comments as you see best.
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    Carlos & Bethe

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Nicholas (Part 1 of 2)

Often you go into situations not really knowing how they will impact you or what lessons you will learn from them. This is our brief story of Nicholas and how he changed our world. It has taken me over a month to be able to post on this subject without tearing up, thinking about how Nicholas is doing and the just plain beautiful moments we had together. Well, so much for that, I can barely see through my silent tears right now (I know, what a sap), but must share our story. Lesson #1a child does not have to be genetically yours for you to love him/her as your own. Taking care of a little one who is completely dependent on you and looks at you as if you are the best thing since sliced bread has a strange way of blurring the genetic code and burning one just as strong on your heart.

Nicholas was a sweet little 14 month old Chinese boy when we decided to foster him while his adoptive mother was completing the necessary documents to pick him up. As a result of being in the orphanage for all of his short life he was quiet and somewhat withdrawn, but that did not last long at all. Lesson #2Nurturing has a magical positive effect on the soul of a human being and Nicholas reminded us of that very quickly. Within a couple of days with us Nicholas was full of energy, was alert and curious as any other healthy and normal child of his age would be, if not more. Remember coming home from work on the third day and seeing my wife on the sofa saying to me…”wow do I feel old, Nicholas is wearing me out. I am beat!”

Funny how much you remember and forget from when you reared your own children. Nicholas brought back so many fond memories from the days our two girls were his age, we had so much fun doing with Nicholas many of the same fun things we did with them. Nicholas developed quite an appetite, and he loved just about anything that we would give him; except ice cream. Remember the first time he tried it, his face contorted and spat it out immediately, his face told us he really did not enjoy the cold sensation at all.

Apologies for the number of pictures, but had a real hard time selecting just a few from what we have.

Nicholas loves taking a bath. He had a blast until we had to rinse the shampoo; it went downhill from there, but he seemed to forget about it quickly.

Nicholas with his orphanage hair cut and right out of the tub. Looking good Nick!

About a week after we brought Nicholas home we took him to the park across our apartment. We had a great time playing on the grounds. He adjusted so quickly to his new surroundings, we were very happy about that

My wife just eating up every second with Nicholas. I was right there with her.

This picture has several of Nicholas moods. Love the one at the center; Nicholas looking at my wife Bethe with such "wow" eyes. How can you not love this kid!

We have so many pictures of Nicholas it may be embarrassing. As mentioned before, he loves food. We gave them just about everything we ate. Of course we would cut it all up so that he would digest properly. In this case though we just gave him a corn on the cob and he just went to town using the few teeth he had at the time.

Nicholas has an eye for the ladies. Wherever we went, if he spotted a girl he would turn the charm several notches and he would get their attention. This waitress played a miniature harmonica for him and the brought him an origami bird we still have.

 

Our very good friends, Ali and Nastaran, also spent lots of time with Nicholas. They became very attached and loved to play with him. Below I am adding some of those times with Ali and Nastaran.

Nicholas playing peek-a-boo with Ali. Start at bottom right and go counterclockwise. My wife taught Nicholas this and he just loved it. I taught him to high-five, he was very quick at doing it. In this picture you can see that he really enjoyed Ali. That smile and laughter is priceless.

 

Close examination of Ali's teeth. Nicholas seem to have this curiosity about teeth. Maybe he will be a dentist? Ali just letting Nicholas do whatever on his face. They were a great fun team together.

One of the most favorite pictures from Nicholas. The smiles on both say it all. We were having lunch at our favorite Indian place near by our place and Ali saw a hat he place on Nicholas for fun. Nicholas thought it was the funniest thing as you can see.

Getting ready to meet Ali and Nastaran for a walk in a cold, but sunny day. Nicholas has a great sense of style as you can see.

Three cool dudes ready for a fun day.

I look way cooler than you do...check out my hat/shades combo...you see?

Ali and Nastaran playing with Nicholas just before we put him in bed. He knew bedtime was coming so he was not too happy to say goodbye.

Nicholas and Bethe inside the Panmen Gate tower, a very historic spot in Suzhou.

Nicholas having fun with Bethe...were are your eyes mama?

Nicholas and I watching TV; his monkey friend close by.

As you can see from the pictures we all enjoyed having Nicholas with us. It was a huge blessing seeing him flourish in such a short amount of time. Below is a brief video of Bethe and Nicholas chasing each other. We love this kid. Next post will have part two; Nicholas with our girls and the dreaded goodbye.

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AlisonFebruary 13, 2012 - 2:18 AM

The lessons you learned are SO true and you worded them in such a powerful and meaningful way. The pictures are beautiful and truly capture the love you all shared. You changed Nicholas's life forever, just as he changed yours. Thank you for sharing this wonderful heartfelt post.

Chinese New Year

The most important holiday in the Chinese calendar is the Spring Festival, also know as the Chinese New Year. During this holiday the majority of ExPats leave China and either return to their home country or take the opportunity to visit other countries around Asia and beyond. While most of our expat friends told us to make sure we leave and go some place outside of China, we decided to stay  in Suzhou to experience this major Chinese holiday for the first time.

So what do the Chinese do during this holiday? In many ways it is similar to the US Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays combined. The Chinese spend a great deal of money buying presents, decorations, fireworks and material goods, get together with family for a great meal together and exchange gifts and good luck artifacts. They also use this time to clean house so that they sweep away any bad luck and make room for good fortune to come in during the new year. The train stations and airports are a true nightmare. Millions of migrant workers travel back home to celebrate this holiday with their seldom-seen families. It is considered to be the largest human migration that brings to a sudden halt all production and commerce in this huge economy. During this time, many migrant workers decide to stay home without any notice to their employers; mostly because they just miss their families, have saved enough to live comfortably in their small towns for a few years or open a small business of their own.

Here is an excerpt of a very good article covering this huge holiday migration written by Megan K. Stack and Barbara Demick of the Los Angeles Times…”These precious days are the most eagerly awaited of the year: a rare chance for rest, and the coming together of families painfully split apart by economic necessity. Self-conscious spouses are reunited. Children peer shyly at parents they haven’t seen in a year. Men who are mocked and exploited in the slick cities puff out their chests and strut, get drunk on rice wine and lavish their hard-won cash on their families”.  For the whole article click HERE

So what was it like in Suzhou? On Monday at zero hours (midnight) the fireworks started. Wow was it noisy and different from what the US sees in our major holidays. We could see big fireworks every where not just in one or two places. It seemed that every house and building complex had their own major display going and it went for hours (see video below). I am blessed with a deep and sound sleep, so it was not difficult for me to just shut down and go to sleep. Unfortunately for my wife, she had a hard time blocking the loud ruckus and she did not have a good night sleep at all. When we woke up on Monday morning we could still hear a few fireworks going here and there, but the most noticeable difference was the lack of cars on the road; almost none.

The streets were really empty and all of the businesses closed. Good thing we did all of our food shopping a few days before or we would have been going hungry for a few days. We just took a nice walk around the neighborhood and relaxed inside the whole day. We were thrilled to hear that one of our very best friends also stayed in Suzhou for the holidays so we did a few things together – visited TongLi, toured Suzhou old district, visited Shanghai and had dinner at each other homes. All in all a very relaxing week. Today, Saturday, most of the business’s will start to open and things will get back to normal by Monday. However, the fireworks are not done yet. This is because, while people go back to work on Monday, the Spring Festival does not end until the 30th (the spring festival starts on the first day of the traditional Chinese calendar and ends on the 15th day). At this time we are told there will be more fireworks all around us. Well, the Chinese did invent them!

To see the fireworks video we took from our apartment balcony (we felt we were under attack) click HERE. Sorry, file was too big to post in this blog.

As we approach TongLi water town in a cold winter day, breakfast is still going on with some steamed dim sums. Yum, Yum.

 

Everyone is in the party mood!

 

No different that any other festival in other parts of the world, vendor food a sure favorite.

 

It is tradition during the New Year to slat meets and hang them outside to dry.

 

My lovely wife (right) with our good friends Ali and Nastaran; they are a lot of fun to be with and as nice as friends come. Ali bought a Russian looking hat a few minutes before we took this picture. This is his comrade look.

 

Ali and I played a couple of the many carnival type games they had. Here we see Ali throwing his last ball in the bucket. He won a small toy he quickly gave a little toddler in a stroller.

 

There is no age limit for having fun in China. This young at heart is having a blast blowing bubbles!

 

Ali posing with his new hat. He loved it praising how warm it kept him even though it only cost him 40 RMB ($6.50). Such a deal!

 

There are many snacks Westerners will consider bizarre. This may be one, deep-fried crab, you eat it all..just like chips I guess. Saw many of happy customers so I had to ask this young man to pose for me.

 

Now this treat we just could not understand. This is a bucket of baby bats. Yes, baby bats. Not sure how they cook them or eat them, but they were on sale in several places. Told they are a tradition during New Year celebrations. Not judging, but huh? CORRECTION - THESE ARE NOT BATS AT ALL. THEY ARE A TYPE OF WATER CHESTNUTS. WAS TOLD THIS BY A SUZHOU NATIVE AFTER SHE SAW MY ORIGINAL POST. Boy, they still look like baby bats.

 

Show Time! Throughout the day they had several performances of traditional significance. We had no clue what they were depicting, but all seemed to enjoy it. Wish we had a guide with us to explain all of these shows. Will have to ask my Chinese co-workers about it.

 

Performers, not as old as they look from afar.

 

Large crowds assembled at the front having a great time with the performances. TongLi is one of my most favorite water towns because you see more locals in it that any other we have been to.

 

A different section having fun with the performance.

 

A proud grandfather posing his beautiful granddaughter!

 

All around TongLi's main square they had carnival type games; some as simple as this one. A big draw for kids, Ali and I.

 

As we passed an alley, we saw a line of ceramic containers that look like a good spot to take a picture. As Ali was posing, a guy told us to come into his store to have a better look at more of these containers. He took us to the back and what he showed us was the area were he ferments his rice wine. Seems like he has been doing this for several decades.

 

The owner showing us a fermenting vat and sharing some for us to try. We all did try it. It was very mild tasting so we think it was not ready yet, but real tasty. We were expecting a huge kick, glad it was as nice as it was. This gentleman was extremely proud of his manufacturing area and was very friendly with us.

 

A wide view of his operation.

 

Ok, if you like to buy a Mr. P brand backpack let me know.

 

A young couple dressed up for the holidays and posing at my request for a picture. Check his boots. They were very happy I asked them for a picture.

 

Find Chinese lanterns just beautiful. During this holidays they are everywhere.

 

After several hours having fun in TongLi we left happy and with several purchases the ladies were very happy with. Happy DRAGON Year!!!

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Fukuoka

Fukuoka is Japans 7th largest city  and is situated on the northern shore of the island of Kyushu Japan. This was to be our last stop in Japan, during the evening we will sail to Busan, South Korea. We only had one day in Fukuoka, so the most we could do was to get a brief taste of what this large city had to offer. I am certain that there are many, many nice places to visit, but due to time we had to limit the tour to a garden (Fukuoka is known for them and the many green spaces throughout the city), a view from the top of the Fukuoka tower and a temple before heading back to the ship. See below for details.

Entrance to the garden (cannot remember the name...). Like the simple lines and wood textures in this type of structures. Such structures found in gardens seem to be a lot simpler and look uncluttered as you compared them to those in temples -- I think for obvious reasons.

As you cross the entrance you start seeing the perfectly manicured grounds. The day was gray and misty, but actually nice for this type of pictures. Find the rain darkens the trunks of threes and bushes and they look so much more dramatic.

This garden was rather large with many small trails, bridges, steps and stone ornaments. I can imagine it would be a great place to read a book next to the brook and just relax.

Good friends we traveled with. Can you guess where are they from? You should, no matter where you are from.

In addition to the many trails, there were a couple of small ponds that added to the charm and peaceful feel of this garden.

One view from the top of the Fukuoka tower. From this tower, that is 768 feet tall (234 meters) you have a 360 degree view of the city of Fukuoka. As you can see from this view, Fukuoka is a large city (greater Fukuoka had 2.5 million people recorded in the 2005 census), as of June 2011, Fukuoka was named the 7th largest city in Japan surpassing Kyoto for the first time ever.

Yes, I have taken many toilet pictures. This one is a bit different though...see next picture.

...yes, there is an instruction label showing you how to sit on the toilet. As you can see, there are some poses that would have worked on most of the toilets Asia still uses today that would just not work on this type.

Visibility at the top was not optimal due to the cloudy and gray conditions, but as we exited the tower we noted that the beam of light shooting into the sky from the very top of the tower was projecting a prism like pattern on the low clouds.

Next to the temple entrance, a place where it seems you wash your hands and even take a drink if needed. Not sure about the true intent of it, but saw both happening.

This paper lanterns are everywhere in every temple we visited in Japan. This temple was the only one we visited after sunset, which made it very different as the artificial light gave it a much different feel from the others.

View from the main temple area. Lots of figures and meaning, just did not get a good lesson from our tour guide so not sure what they all mean.

Tengu masks, they are supposed to have morphed from birds, these masks usually fall somewhere between a large, monstrous bird and a wholly anthropomorphized being, often with a red face or an unusually large or long nose - just like this one. The tengu's long nose seems to have been conceived in the 14th century, likely as a humanization of the original bird's bill.

As we left the temple I noticed right across it a very small restaurant. As I prepared to take a picture of it, one of the patrons saw me, smiled and gave me the V sign - friendly people...like that.

I crossed the street for a closer look, but still outside.

Amazing the number of very narrow eateries we saw in Japan. This one is another example of such. Wish had the time to go in and be able to know what to order.

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KristinJanuary 15, 2012 - 10:50 AM

These are amazing photos! I'm so happy you guys are taking advantage of all that is there and exploring! I also loved the photo of your foster cutie with his "real" mom. You guys are amazing. Seriously. Trammy would be so proud!

Peter LiaoJanuary 15, 2012 - 10:54 AM

Nice photos always, Carlos,
The instruction by the toilet was written in simplified Chiense. It seems like a particular reminder for the Chinese tourest…

Happy New Year!

While 2011 was not a bad year; all things considered, we are looking forward to a much better 2012. We had our two daughters visiting us during the past 12 days, and left to return to the US yesterday evening. We loved the time we spent together and will miss them terribly. Thank God for Skype, it allows us to talk and see them (even though the screen is small) as much as we like and time allows.

My wife and I like to wish our family and all our friends and blog visitors a great 2012. May the new year bring a good mix of family time, spiritual and personal growth, new adventures and success in whatever you set your mind to do.

Visiting Lingshan tourist attraction in Wuxi. In addition to having our daughters visit this relatively new theme park (the layout is very much like an American theme park, but this one is all about Buddhism), we are trying to take pictures of Nicholas in as many places in China as possible before his adoptive mother pick him up in two weeks.

 

Sarah and Jocelyn next to prayer wheels. Worshipers believe that as they spin a prayer wheel with pure intention it will increase compassion, purify negativity, remove barriers to enlightenment and generally bring great benefit to all sentient beings -- (Sentience is the ability to feel, perceive or be conscious, or to have subjective experiences - new word for me).

 

Nicholas playing hide and seek with me. Got you sweet Nicholas! Yeah, unrelated to the theme of this post, but had to share his cute picture of Nicholas.

 

Our parting shot of 2011. As the Chinese start to make preparations to their own New Year celebrations (will take place on January 23rd). This new year will be the year of the dragon; it should be interesting as it will be our first time in China during such celebrations. Will have a post on it for sure.

 Happy New Year!!!

 

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gail watsonDecember 31, 2011 - 2:23 PM

love this BLOG!!! and I love you guys!!! Great photos of a great family………….but I can't wait until you come HOME!!! xxxooo

Peter LiaoJanuary 1, 2012 - 9:10 AM

Thank you for sharing the wonderful photos. Happy New Year!

Kathy EikostJanuary 2, 2012 - 5:52 AM

Wonderful idea to share all these special photos/places with Nicholas and his new family-to-be. Glad the girls could share this adventure with you. Love you guys! Happy 2012!

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